It is easy to overlook Virgo, when pumpkin spice is everywhere each summer.

THIS IS THROUGH MY PERSONAL LENS.

About Virgo, For the Virgos, and the little heartbreaks experienced.

“The fact that every Virgo i see is exhausted and asking for consideration as celebration for their birthday.

Isn’t a coincidence. Just like people find it easy to skip to fall while it is still summer during Virgo season.”

I have been noticing all the Virgo’s that cry and isolate for their birthday. Asking to not have to schedule one more thing, to not be surprised, to be fucking considered.

Then we isolate and somehow it is taken personal.

Virgo’s are often criticized for being too much. Too much of a perfectionist, too critical, too bossy, too exacting, too boring, too cold/standoffish, too controlling.

What do you do when life feels like a nervous spiral—all of the time?

Virgo tries to find the strings. To make sure everyone is ok. Therefore being able to get reprieve.

but who notices—hardworking, overgiving, available and accessible?

the silent work that keeps everyone together and in order

who is the person who knows the appointments, the dates, the itinerary, the one thing you that person is allergic to, always fixing, organizing, when you don’t feel well—just off the sound of your voice, or change in patterns.

Virgo is known as the maiden and I wonder how many Virgos are made manager of the household either through the neglect be it emotional or otherwise. Somehow we are assigned to manage something either through seeing the cracks, other people’s emotions, or need to present as having it all together.

It is easier to not garner attention when everything is working. Or to get the right kind of attention.

There is something that happens when everything is always taken care of. People forget that there is anything to be done, to be maintained and that there is someone behind it. Often how mother’s take the brunt of the housework and ensure everyone is well often at the expense of herself. People assume—it is magical.

What it truly is—is heavy.

Virgo’s [and of course not all] but the many that I know including myself, have encountered a diminishing of our emotions and on occasion a layer of dehumanizing consideration.

The criticizing began at childhood. The being organized or creating systems, helped manage our frying nervous system in a home of silent or overt tumultuousness. Most Virgos suffer from stomach pain, gut, anxiety, and some immune issues.

Being the absorber of everyone else’s emotions, stressors, like a sponge causes a great deal of damage to the system. Virgo’s sister sign is Pisces and the nebulousness of boundaries and assumed burdens in relationships especially Virgo risings shows up loudly.

They have all of the supplies because who else will have them? They need all of the things to regulate, to be sure, to ensure they can heal themselves because after a while they learned care has an expiration date or to expect care is a burden.

Most likely feeling the burden and choosing not become one. Often times, vulnerability, revealing a crack within the perfection, asking for help became weaponized or something to criticize from others. Virgo quickly learns, being useful is the only way to gain love. Being easy and helpful makes love stay.

What it leads to—is the expectation of the Virgos usefulness and feeling owed this ongoing care. It does not mean we are not at fault for snapping or being peculiar.

Sometimes it creates a recurring situation where Virgo can create interdependence as relationship. It permeates all of their relationships. People who always need help and Virgo who is willing because this is love or so that was the internal programming.

Environment is everything to a Virgo because they have been overly stimulated and could not control their surroundings. To feel safe and calm in the stillness.

Virgo often pays by carrying everything on their shoulders.

no one asked you to. you’re overwhelming. you’re overpowering. you’re intimidating.

Yes, I have heard this too, but who will? Do the recurring thing—no one else would.

This life requires care, and many have the privilege to ignore it, not need to be self aware, or overlook it—because someone else is doing it. Why partake if someone else got it?

It is easy to question the necessity, to devalue the series of small things that keep things in equilibrium and the Virgo with the extra large bag just in case.

It is now Virgo season and we desire to rest, to be appreciated, to be remembered & considered. Many Virgos online have gone to isolate, to regulate, to release the heaviness of the year and of the burdens carried. Others are met with more decisions, people still looking for answers or the fun recommendation of a surprise party.

A surprise to a Virgo means anxiety, not knowing what to expect, it IS violence to the nervous system.

It feels like heartbreak to know and observe someone to a tea and that same someone cannot see that quiet moments, going dancing, being able to let loose and fully be all versions of themselves is the desire. But the fact that you—loved one did not realize is the true heartbreak. It is the ongoing wound of being invisible, to the people that matter.

Those people we would do anything for, cannot even for once say “you’ve done a lot, you’ve experienced a lot, you must be tired. Let me….” This is the consideration Virgos desperately desire and do not get.

Someone and somewhere that feels like rest, someone who allows the guilt ridden voices and the inner critic to quiet.

So when everyone is ready to fast forward through summer—to get to the next season. They have had their fill of heat, the fun in the sun got old, school and having to prepare for the season’s end is now tedious. Why not push past it all?

In that groove people forget that a season of celebration is still there. The beaches are still calling our names and being present is still the summer invitation.

A Virgo who went and helped put your event together or made your birthday extra special doesn’t ask but secretly hopes the same. Not in a tit for tat but in an equal exchange of love and energy.

Virgo is by no means a victim, but they are a human being, hoping to receive ease, to be understood, and to be appreciated aloud.

When they are beautiful things emerge.

What did I miss? Feel free to add on. I prefer it be a conversation than a pointing of fingers.